What is NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming?
NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a science founded in 1970 by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. NLP can be considered as an attitude for communication, personal growth, and psychotherapy. This science will help you understand how the human mind works so that you can make the most of it. Some uses of NLP:
- Increase your productivity and help you achieve your goals
- A method for overcoming fears, phobias, worries, and many more
- More impact on people in everyday conversations and negotiations
- Achieve emotional stability and sensory control
- Forget bitter memories
- Changing your feelings about different things in life (motivating, quitting an addiction, etc.)
What Neuro-Linguistic Programming means
The word Neuro refers to the neural pathways of humans, the word Linguistic indicates that in this science language is used as a tool for planning oneself or others, and that is why this three-word name is selected by the founders of this science. In short, Neuro-Linguistic Programming science is a science that strongly emphasizes
- Communication
- States that to achieve what you want
- Focusing on having excellent relationships with the world around you (communication with the inside and communication with the outside world)!
- Internal communication: (the words you say to yourself, the images you show yourself in your mind, the sounds, the emotions, and so on).
- External communication is your interactions with people and the world around you.
In this article, we will tell you the principles of this science that by knowing them, you can change your life forever.
💻 Look at your mind like a computer 💻
To understand Neuro-Linguistic Programming well, you need to think of your mind as a computer and think of behaviors as computer software run by your subconscious mind.
NLP has many uses and can be used to improve all aspects of your life. Before you get into NLP techniques and learn them, you need to be familiar with the assumptions of this science.
NLP Science Defaults
💭 Communication means the answer you get
This means that a good relationship requires your responsibility! If you did not receive the correct answer, the method you used was wrong! Sometimes, people proudly say: It doesn’t matter to me what he took! As long as I know what I mean, that’s enough! By stating this principle, NLP science invites you to take responsibility.
💭 There is no failure to communicate and achieve the desired goal, there is only feedback
A failure is just an event that shows feedback and tells you that the method you used has not worked. And failing is nothing more than feedback! If you’ve failed a thousand times, it just means, “This thousand ways don’t work to achieve your goal!” That’s it !”. So it’s time to try other ways.
💭 The map is not the territory itself!
This beautiful sentence, which is one of the important principles of this science, states that each person, from a fixed world and reality, has different and special understandings. For example, you may feel that people hate you but it is not true at all! You may feel that you are a very successful person, but this is not the case at all! You may feel like the most failed person in the world, but in practice, you have done very well and are one step closer to success!
It’s hard for many people to believe this principle at first! But little by little, they will see that it is true! When you are upset, or when you see the whole world in black, this blackness is not real! The reality is fixed! It is you who see the world in black because of your inner feelings or beliefs. It’s the interpretation of the world around you that makes sense to you!
💭 People always make the best possible choice, of course, given the unique model of the world and the conditions in which they live!
This means that you should never feel guilty! You couldn’t do better than you did in the past. The problem is that over time, you forget the feelings you had at that moment, the beliefs, the resources you had at that moment (financial, spiritual, etc.), that you have done what you could at that moment, and many other things that were characteristic of that moment (which you blame yourself for). Rest assured that if you go back to that situation and with the same facilities, you will still do the same.
💭 Everyone has the resources to make a difference.
You don’t need anything else to succeed! You have everything you need to succeed! Of course, the power of external factors is very high, but you should know that if you see the story of successful people, many people, even in much worse conditions than you, have succeeded, so there is no escape and no excuse for you!
💭 If you get resistance in a relationship, that resistance shows your inflexibility as a communicator
If the way you do something doesn’t work, let it go and do it differently. ! as simple as that! If you have failed to achieve your goal with your current beliefs and methods, don’t keep repeating it! It’s stupid to do the same thing a thousand times in the same way and expect to get a different result! What many people are doing without knowing it!
💭 In public interaction, the person who has the most flexibility and diversity of behavior determines the result of interactions and communication.
💭 A person’s positive value is kept constant. While the inappropriate internal or external behavior of his behavior is questionable
This principle is very beautiful. People are not the behavior they show! If someone has treated you badly in one day, it does not mean that he is an immoral person! Separate behaviors from the nature of individuals.
