Introduction
Have you ever felt good about the other person in your first meeting or even the first few minutes of a phone call without knowing why?
One of the most important strengths you need to achieve in life is a high impact on your first encounter with others, especially strangers. You may have an important job interview or even a love relationship, however effective impact is very important in the first encounter. You can use the Rapport technique to become intimate with anyone and in this article we explain this technique completely.
Building Rapport
In the science of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), there is a very important topic called Building Rapport. The word means compatibility and agreement. Let’s make it clear to you with an example.
EXAMPLE
Imagine being in a foreign country and not knowing the language. No one speaks your language But just at the height of your frustration, you suddenly find someone who speaks the same language as you and your nationality. You also have a lot in common and you have the same interests in work and clothing and even your favorite food and songs. How would you feel about this person? How do you feel at that moment? This condition is called Rapport.
Water can mix with water and oil can mix with oil. But oil and water can not be mixed, and Rapport points to the same thing. With this introduction, we are going to teach you how you can build great intimacy and expand your relationship with those around you in a phone call or face-to-face meeting from now on. Don’t forget that in the path of progress, people and your friends are your most important resource.
Mirror the physiology
Do you know that if you can completely mirror the physiology of the person in front of you, you can experience exactly the Emotional State of that person, the thoughts he experiences, and his attitude towards the world? Research and experiments show that after 100% imitation, people even have the same images in their minds and can transmit a large amount of information. For example, you will be able to see the images that the person sees in his/her mind.
Do you know what happens if you can imitate all the details of a person?
The other person in his subconscious mind feels that he has found his lost half. Does an American feel better with an Englishman or an Arabic person? When people have more similarities, they are more inclined to each other.
When we talk about Mirroring, we mean Mirroring things like the following from the other person:
- Body language, standing posture, hand movement speed, etc., facial expressions, breathing rhythm
- the tone of voice, how he/she talks, speed of speech, pitch or the frequency of sound, silence, pauses
But more precisely, what is the mirroring technique in NLP?
With the introduction, we want to introduce Match And Mirroring methods. One way to create a rapport on the subconscious level (actually, the other person will make you feel good without realizing it) is to imitate or compare them. This operation can occur in a phone call, or even in person, or even while chatting.
1️⃣ Matching
That means repeating exactly what he did.
2️⃣ Mirroring
That is, compare one’s actions. It’s as if you are a mirror and that person is exactly in front of you.
📞 In a Phone Call
Let’s start with a phone call. Think for a moment. What can you imitate in a phone call? Here are some examples:
- tone of voice
- the way they talk
- Speed of speaking
- Pieces of keywords and phrases
- Interruptions and silences
📱 When Chatting with someone
Now suppose you are chatting with someone. What can you Mirror? Here are some of them:
- speed of Sending messages
- The time interval between messages
- Style of writing
- The length of each message
- Pieces of text words used. For example, insert three dots.
💑 When you have a face-to-face meeting
But let’s get into the more professional part. Suppose you have a face-to-face meeting and in a gathering, you want to have an intimate relationship with a certain person. Without the person himself or those around him realizing it.
- In addition to the above, you can imitate the body language of the person!
- Imitate the person’s breathing rhythm and breathing rate.
- Imitate the face of the person.
- You can mimic the facial expressions of the person in front of you.
Here are some important tips to keep in mind
In implementing these techniques, pay attention to the following points:
🔴 Use Mirroring Technique Subconsciously
- If you are repeating the person’s body language, make sure the other person does not notice. In fact, All you need to do to master Mirroring is to have a subconscious operation. Otherwise, if the person realizes that you are repeating his Body Language, everything is ruined.
- The founders of NLP Science, by examining people who are close to each other, found that they subconsciously coordinate and synchronize, and Mirror each other. With that in mind, they decided to use Mirroring on purpose this time around to build intimacy.
How to use the technique in a way that nobody notices
- For the Mirroring operation to remain hidden, you can have a pause of several seconds (for example, 3 seconds) between the imitation of the movements. Or, in moments when you are going to repeat the movements of the other person (for example, the person in front of you is bent towards you), by asking a question, you can keep the Conscious part of the other person’s mind busy.
So that he doesn’t have to analyze your Mirroring and your operations on the subconscious level create intimacy.
🔴 Mirroring to control others
- You can use Mirroring to control others. (We hope you have positive goals!). After you have mirrored each person’s movements for a few minutes, you can see if the other person is repeating it by doing something on their own. A good example of this is:
We have seen many times that when two people are very close and live in Rapport, as soon as one person praises the other, the other person starts praising him. Because two people are in Rapport and are Mirroring each other (even on a linguistic level).
If you have a deep understanding of the power of this technique, I hope you use it responsibly.
🔴 Test whether you did your job right!
- After a few minutes of Mirroring a person, do a move to test whether you did your job right! For example, steam your face. Congratulations if the other person did the same! You are synchronized together. For example, if you start sleeping or feel drowsy, the other person will feel the same way. It seems that little by little you realize why sometimes when someone feels drowsy and yawning, those around them also start yawning.
- Famous hypnotists like Milton Erickson even combined their breathing rhythms with their patients. Even when they saw, for example, the person moving his foot back and forth at a certain speed, they hit the table with the same speed with their hands and imitated the rhythm.
