Will you fall in love after growing up? Will you still fall in love if you complete your character development process? Is falling in love a message from the world to you?
Although we should say that the answer to this question is entirely relative and comes back to our definition of personality development, growth, love, etc., what we want to express in this article is only a new attitude and window towards love that you should read carefully. Reading this article will give you profound insight.
Although you may feel that in this article, we intend to refer to love and falling in love as a weakness, that is never what we mean. The purpose of ONEEYE is to reveal a powerful window into your inner knowing that no one may have ever told you before. This is the realm of ONEEYE, and you belong to the community of ONEEYE, so you should study unique and different materials.
The relationship between human needs and falling in love
In the article “6 Basic Needs of All Humans”, considered one of the essential articles of ONEEYE, we discussed the basic needs of humans and said that everything humans do is to satisfy one of these needs. But what is the relationship between these needs and falling in love?
It is not bad to raise these 6 needs once again:
1. Need for certainty
Having a sense of control over life, making sure that in the future, your life has minimum security (for example, you are sure that you have a stable job and in the future, even in the worst case, you will not starve)
2. Need for uncertainty or variety
This need is kind of the opposite of the first need. If everything in your life is predictable, certain, and one hundred percent, everything will be boring. Just like a movie that you know the end of. Not satisfying this need can make a person with a wonderful life think of suicide.
3. The need to feel important, valuable, and needed
All human beings need to feel important. All humans need to feel valued.
4. Need for communication, falling in love
Humans are social beings; by nature, they need to communicate with others and get energy from them.
5. Need to grow
Humans hate to stay still and like to grow. Even someone with 100 billion capital will feel bad if he doesn’t increase it next year.
6. The need to forgive the world around you, step beyond your loneliness and help others
Even if you are imperfect and have no needs, the 6th need is vital, and a person needs to calm himself by giving good feelings to others.
Well, so far, we have said the six primary needs of every human being. But what do these needs have to do with falling in love?
We want to say a very controversial point. Pay attention:
“If you have fallen in love, it means you have been unable to satisfy one or more of your six basic needs.”
Let us once again say this sentence to you:
“When you fall in love, it is a message from the universe to you that shows that you have been unable to satisfy one or more of your six basic needs.”
Be careful; we in ONEEYE never intend to say a sentence with prejudice, blindly support it and install a new belief in your mind. In ONEEYE, the goal is only one thing: to increase your awareness and alertness. Think carefully about what we said.
Maybe right now, you see love as a pure and wonderful feeling that starts for no reason and at once, and you may think that you are in love with someone, and this love is sincere and pure. We also do not want to judge anything. But it is not bad to re-read the sentence and carefully consider it.
Did you read the sentence we wrote in blue? Falling in love is just a message from the universe to you that shows that you have failed to meet one of your six basic needs. This is what ONEEYE wants to tell you.
If you fall in love, this love is not at all because he is different from everyone else, it is not at all because you want to do good to him without any purpose, and this love is really pure. The only reason is that you have failed to satisfy one of your six basic needs.
Example 1
For example, a woman who has been unable to meet her first need, i.e., the need to have a sense of security and the need to have a stable life, may simply fall in love with a man whose behavior is stable or who is rich. Pay attention that this falling in love happens entirely unconsciously. For this reason, even the lady may come up with other reasons for falling in love because she is unaware of the main reason. So to love someone independent of this issue, you must improve your life conditions alone.
Example 2
Suppose someone cannot satisfy his second need, i.e., the need for diversity in life, and his life is boring and does not have a diverse emotional level. In that case, this issue can make him fall in love with another person to fulfill this need. Of course, again, without him realizing the reason for falling in love. So to love someone independent of this issue, you must have an extraordinary and energetic level of quality and emotionality in your daily life.
Example 3
Pay attention to the third requirement! The need to feel important and valuable and to be accepted by others is one of the humans’ most essential needs. For example, it is possible that a person who has not received the feeling of being valuable from the people around him since the beginning of his life simply falls in love with the first person who gives him this feeling of being valuable. So, you need to grow alone in life and get a sense of importance from the praises of others for your valuable work. And somehow satisfy this need. So, to love someone independent of this issue, you have to build your inner character in such a way that many people will admire you.
Example 4
The fourth need is love and relationship. To meet his emotional and spiritual needs, a person who does not have good relationships with people and has weak points in this part takes refuge in a love relationship and will be vulnerable. So, you need to create strong human connections in your life, have deep human feelings around you, and have those you love.
Example 5
The fifth need is the need for growth. A person unable to grow and cannot grow simply takes refuge in a relationship, hoping his development will begin by entering the relationship. However, no external factors can improve the situation if a person cannot guide himself from within. So, you have to grow alone in your life. Growing at an incredible rate.
Example 6
The sixth need is the need to give to the world and step beyond your inner boundaries. This requirement is very attractive and exciting. Even if you are a very powerful and perfect human being, you will be vulnerable if you don’t spread your energy worldwide and provide global service.
In this case, to experience the feeling of supporting others and doing good to others, you may take refuge in a love relationship. But the subtle point is here! Even the most incredible and perfect people who have covered the previous five needs may fall in love because of the 6th need. Therefore, you should give to the world and help and support others after inner growth.
But wait a few moments. Yes, we said the nature of earthly human love, which we expressed from a higher perspective. But this earthly love is also beautiful! Sometimes you have to turn off your mind and experience your emotions! In ONEEYE, we do not intend to judge or create new beliefs at all! Everything is beautiful! And even experiencing love is part of human evolution! But what we said is the truth of the earthly love of humans! If you want to experience love-like stories, you must first make sure that you are completely satisfied from the inside (according to these 6 needs). This is how you will experience true love.
