Phobia or fear of talking to a stranger in public

Do you have fear in communicating with a stranger in public?

Is this fear so severe that you are even afraid to ask a stranger what the time is?

You’ve probably done a lot of research on ways to treat this problem, but you didn’t get your answer. However, you are lucky enough to read the rest of this article and end this fear forever.

Lack of confidence

The main reason you can’t communicate with or talk to a person in a strange environment is that you don’t have enough confidence in it. Self-confidence simply means being able to do what you want to do, or not doing what you don’t want to do. Confidence does not exist in the general sense and is defined in a specific context. This means that, for example, a doctor in dentistry may have high self-esteem but not enough confidence in touching a cat.

Imagine what would happen if you let go of that fear

Now is the time to imagine exactly what the outcome of overcoming this fear will be for you. Imagine for a second you were entered (even alone) into a room full of strangers. Keep your sense of adventure and the need to connect with friends and new people alive, and you can grow significantly in any area (work, intimate relationship, etc.).

How to end this fear?

Suppose you are walking alone in a public place and you want to communicate with a stranger or make friends with him. Your heart beats faster, you experience anxiety, your voice gets louder, and everything seems so hard that you give up altogether. But what is the most effective way to treat this fear?

The answer is the same as the famous question below:

Question: How to eat an elephant?

Answer: bite to bite.

In order to be able to put your fear aside well, you have to divide it into very, very simple and small steps, and do those steps so that step by step, your confidence in the subject is built from zero to one hundred. For example, in the case of befriending a stranger in a public environment, the following steps should be taken for a person who does not have self-confidence at all:

• First, ask at least 5 people at least 5 times, preferably at different intervals. If this step still seems too difficult for you, you can create smaller and simpler steps. For example, in the eyes of 5 people, look for 1, 4, and finally 7 seconds, respectively, and then return to this stage.
• Then, this time, ask 5 strangers who look friendly.
• Now ask 5 other strangers about other issues, such as the best restaurant in the current environment. Then quickly finish the discussion and continue on your way.
• At this point, find 5 other people and ask about a general topic like the best restaurants in the area. This time, while talking, you can further the discussion and give your opinion about other restaurants or any other issue. Try to be creative.
• Continue in exactly the same small steps until you reach your final goal and you see your fear has been disappeared. You will soon find that you have tremendous confidence in speaking with others.

Important Points

If at any stage, you feel that it is still difficult for you or you have fear to do that, you can determine the simpler steps beforehand or repeat the same step several more times. You can also make it easier for yourself by having a close friend.

You can also use what we have said to treat phobias and other fears.

During repetitions of a specific step, try to appear better each time, and use your hands, for example, while speaking. Or once again, this time, in addition to the hands, show the body language better. Or go further and ask about the other person’s personal opinions.

With each repetition, try to identify, just like a psychologist, the factors and behaviors that make people more willing to respond and be friends with you.

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