Are all our lives under our control? Is there a power higher than our power? Is our success entirely in our hands?
For years, all the people who work and teach in the field of success psychology have been exaggerating the characteristics of successful people (people like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, etc.). Many people also describe them as heroes (and yes, they look like heroes).
Reading all these stories, despite all these extraordinary features, sometimes a question may come to anyone’s mind!
How many people in the world have all these characteristics? How many people are intelligent, persistent, brave, and invincible?
Answer: Millions of people!
But why aren’t all these people billionaires and wealthy? Or why at least many of those who want to succeed do not succeed? instead, why do other people sometimes succeed without having any high-level personality traits?
The shocking answer is: You can be intelligent, persistent, enthusiastic, brave, and have the most dreamy qualities but still fail! But how is it possible!?
Why might you still fail with all the good qualities?
We have all read the stories of many successful people, and if you look at them, there is one common point among them. Let us briefly mention 3 of them so you can understand the meaning more precisely.
Eduardo Saverin, with a net worth of 9.3 billion dollars: is an intelligent, courageous person with many characteristics of a successful person. One day Zuckerberg decided to create Facebook (after he got the idea from the Winklevoss twins), and because Eduardo was his friend, he asked him to join him in this idea of creating Facebook!
Mark Pincus, with a net worth of $1.3 billion: Had all the characteristics of a successful person. He was very interested in making a computer game but never succeeded in making it because he did not have the necessary power to market those games. Finally, one day when Facebook started working, it opened an opening for creators to see opportunities and create new relationships. And to be able to market the Farm Ville game through Facebook, and thus the Zynga company started working.
Did you reach a specific conclusion?
Our question is this. What if Eduardo never saw Zuckerberg? (For example, they lived in a different city). Now, what if Zuckerberg himself never saw the Winklevoss twins?
And many other questions will arise in your mind after reading all these stories!
Many factors necessary for success are beyond our control.
Yes. We can control our habits, feelings, goals, and even our personality and make extraordinary changes in it. But many factors necessary for success are beyond our control. We never intend to reduce the value of the work of people who have achieved great success. All those people were very serious and steadfast and had a high-level personality, but are all extraordinary people successful?
No! Because some factors are mainly out of our control that can change and affect all our lives. Seeing a person or not seeing him, the country in which we are born, family status, family financial level, father and Mother, and many other characteristics can directly affect our success.
The success or failure of other people can also affect our success! Imagine that one of your friends or relatives becomes a very successful person and suddenly you rise and become successful because of him!
If Zuckerberg didn’t succeed with Facebook, Twitter, or even Instagram would never have been created. Also, Zynga company would never exist without Facebook, and maybe everything would suddenly change and happen differently.
How does having the illusion of control negatively affect our lives?
Having the illusion of control can destroy our lives.
If you compare yourself to others who have achieved more success than you and don’t consider that some external factors outside their control helped them, you may lose your confidence. You magnify those who have achieved outstanding results, and your belief about yourself will change.
You might think that they succeeded because they were good and you didn’t because you weren’t good enough, but that’s not true at all. Such comparisons can destroy your self-confidence and make life difficult.
Should you stop reading this article?
Definitely not! If you are going to stop and quit trying, you do not understand the point of this article. We can say that many successful people have been attempting for a long time and have had challenging conditions.
So why did we write this article? There are two points:
- Be able to maintain your confidence even if you have not yet succeeded: All successful people throughout history have held their confidence and worked hard until they achieved success and never stopped. If you see another person who has achieved success much easier than you, you should know that many things on the path to success are beyond your control that may be against you, and you should try until you are successful.
- Believe in a higher power: some people call it luck, some call it karma, some call it nature, the galaxy, an idol! And some people call it God. Whatever you believe, if you believe in a higher power (in any form), you can still somehow interpret the things that are out of your control and relax. Of course, you have to be very careful that these beliefs do not affect the amount of your effort and do not make you try less.
Finally, don’t forget, if we want to check logically, you can also create luck! How?
By increasing your connections, by increasing your friends, by showing yourself and your skills in more places. However, it is very, very important to try with all your might and this article only intends to say that if you fail, the reason is not necessarily because you are not working or being bad! Instead, you should try until you succeed.
You should know that the things written on this website or all success books can increase your chances of success! For example, when you can become close with people or attract people to you, you will have more opportunities to succeed! But be aware that many factors are out of your control!
One of the catastrophic losses that having beliefs such as luck, destiny, etc., creates in people’s lives is that it causes them to get stuck and reduce their efforts! You have to be very careful because, in any case, you should not stop, but know that many factors are out of your control.
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